If there’s one thing I recently made up my mind to do , it is to CHOOSE MY BATTLES WISELY.
Choosing your battles means to actively and SMARTLY be deliberate about them, not to participate in minor, unimportant, trivial, inconsequential or overly difficult arguments, contests, or confrontations.
C. JoyBell C. said:
“Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It’s not winning battles that makes you happy, but it’s how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.”
It means being selective of the problems, arguments and confrontations you get involved in. Instead of fighting every problem, save your time and energy only for those that matter and battles where you have a good chance for success. This applies to all spheres of life.
Not everything is important. Some people can fight anywhere, anytime, especially online quarrels that are becoming rampant now (even though some of these same people can’t even confront an ant in reality). These people are often looking for unwarranted trouble and wasting their time plus energy on useless stuff. Mehn! Some of these things don’t matter especially on the long run. There are some people who always seem angry and continuously look for conflict. Walk away, the battle they are fighting isn’t with you, it is with themselves.
Don’t be so overly sensitive, opening yourself up to unnecessary battles. Someone unintentionally collides with you, you escape being harmed, but still you rain down a fire of defense upon the person in anger…Kilode? (What is wrong?) Why create enemies out of innocent incidents?
NOT EVERY ACTION WARRANTS A DEFENSIVE REACTION.
Some problems may seem urgent but their benefits (monetary or otherwise) do not outweigh the cost. You have limited time and energy. Do you want to look back many years to come and realize you fought with a lot of people?
Joel Osteen said: “The reason that people are missing out on God’s best is that they are distracted fighting battles that don’t really matter.”
I once read that the best politicians are those who choose their battles wisely. Wow!
Let go of all the stuff you engage in unnecessarily and brush them off for God’s sake.
Notwithstanding, this doesn’t mean we should avoid all battles. Just like our lecturers will tell us about different rules of law for diverse legal cases, each needs to be assessed according to the circumstances that surrounds them. Standing up for yourself is a good thing but there are times ignoring disruptive and combative people or situations is the best thing you can do. There are certain battles which simply cannot be won no matter how much effort you put into them or what strategies you use. Surrendering or retreating does not mean you are weak.
Choosing your battles wisely means there is a time to fight and a time to back down. You don’t have to show up to every argument. You have to save your strength for winning the important ones. Success comes not from winning every battle but learning to let go when it’s time to do so.
In-between, I’ve learnt that some times, you have to leave your battles to God to fight for you. If it’s His problem, let Him solve it. He will do a good job fighting and solving your problems than you will ever be.
Choose your battles wisely and decide where you can make a difference.
Not everything is worth flipping over.
Remember, time is so Precious.
Before I drop my pen, let me ask you this question:
ARE YOU CHOOSING YOUR BATTLES WISELY ?